Yesterday, my parental trust was tested. My now 4th grade son was invited to the beach with his friend's family who live in a beach house year-round. This was a first. To know that my son, a relative newcomer to ocean swimming, would be under the the watchful eye of another mother and not me! Six hours later he returned, brown as a bean and glowing with joy and exhaustion. He had done it on his own! We both were proud of ourselves.
There is a subtle transition that seems to take place at age nine. Not only can I see him changing - shoulders widening, the top of his head in line with my nose, the last little baby fat on his face fading away - I can feel him changing as well. Not as interested in toys or Legos, he is spending much more time reading, writing, talking with us and wanting to spend most of his time using all kinds of electronics. Suddenly he is asking for an IPOD Touch, a Kindle and a lap top. Whoa! He doesn't even listen to the radio so why does he need an IPOD? Simple. All his friends have one. We are entering a new phase of the "gimmes" that won't be as easy to satisfy with a new toy or book to read.
You see we have this idea that our kids should not have their own TVs and computers in the privacy of their own rooms. I know, we are so OLD SCHOOL! We do watch TV shows, play Xbox games and allow them to use the family computer but we do all these things in the presence of one another and I would like to keep it that way as long as we can.
There will be a great deal of impatience in our house - maybe for the next several years. I can almost hear the "But why can't I?" and the "It's not fair!" now. But I also know that patience is a virtue and that which we love is worth waiting for. It is reassuring that while he is growing up, so am I. I can rest in relative peace knowing that I will be able to handle the transitions ahead, especially since I do not have to do it without the power of prayer and divine intervention.
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